In his book How Children Fail, John Holt said, “The true test of intelligence is not how much we know how to do, but how we behave when we don’t know what to do.”
Often, as parents, we’re taken aback when we hear our child get frustrated with a problem and have a meltdown or lash out at a friend or even at us, when she doesn’t know what to do about a problem. Sometimes, we even wonder, “Where did she learn that behavior?”
Perhaps a more appropriate question is to ask how often as parents and caregivers do we model the perspective of “I don’t know the answer or how to solve the problem, let’s find out…” Children model the behavior of those they care deeply about and who care for them.
As you go through your day, look for opportunities to share this perspective with your children that it’s okay to not know the answer. Invite them to figure things out together with you.
We look forward to hearing what you discover!