Spending Time

spending time Author Harvey Mackay writes that “Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it, you can never get it back.” 

We often speak of spending “quality time” with our kids or partner. What does that mean? How is that different from “regular time?” Perhaps we say this is time that is “well spent.” This is closer to acknowledging that time has value, yet it misses the point of it being something that can be created. 

If you viewed time as something you could make, how would you spend that time? There are not many people who reach the end of their lives wishing they could have spent more time at the office. Most people value the time spent with loved ones above all else. 

So how could you create such time for yourself? What are the elements that you need — the recipe, as it were — for creating time?  

energetic conversationsEnergetic Conversations

As our awareness of the energy in our family grows, we have an opportunity to view things from a new perspective and be a catalyst for positive energy flow. Think about your conversations with your children or partner over the next week and notice what builds or diminishes energy.

Where do the most energetic conversations occur? Do fewer words help them hear you better? Or do more words make a difference?

When you are in a conversation, are you open to them leading it? Do you enter it with an open mind or do you already have an agenda?

Does the energy build as the conversation deepens or does it start high and diminish as the dialogue goes on? How do you feel about conversations in which you add very little, other than to listen?

Our views of ourselves as parents or partners in a relationship often are reflected in our answers to questions such as these. Observe the energy flow in your family and share your observations of the shifts you notice when you ask these questions…